Sometimes It's Not For You: A Thought On FOMO

Sometimes It's Not For You: A Thought On FOMO

"You'll never believe what happened last night!" a coworker said during our lunch break.

He and another guy from our office had gone to a formal business thing with a raffle draw. And the other guy had won plane tickets that would have cost a few months' salary.

"Wow, that's awesome!"

"Right?" My coworker grinned. "Except he'd gone home before his name was drawn, and got disqualified!"

"What?!?"

"I can't believe it either! I texted him about it and he said the craziest thing." Chuckling, my coworker brought his phone close enough for me to see the screen.

It's okay. It wasn't for me.

"Maybe that helps him sleep at night." My coworker shrugged. "But I still feel bad for him; he missed out!"

3 Extra-Surprising Ways Minimalism Changed My Life (+1 Way It Didn't)

3 Extra-Surprising Ways Minimalism Changed My Life (+1 Way It Didn't)

"Minimalism is a nice concept but I could never have just two white shirts/one pair of shoes/ten books/[insert number of favorite items here]!"

And I get it: the thought of getting rid of stuff and keeping just enough feels restrictive. All that extra space in your home after decluttering can feel boring and empty, like you need to fill it with more stuff 'cause you now have so much room.

The thing is minimalism isn't one size fits all. It's not about keeping a certain number of items or letting go of something you love in your life just because someone else would find it excessive.

For many minimalists, it's not really about less. It's about letting go of less which helps you focus on more of what you care about.

Less stuff at home means more time enjoying your home. Because you don't have as much cleaning and upkeep to do to keep your items in shape.

Less shopping means more money you haven't shopped with.

Less clothes means less confusion about what to wear in the mornings and more time wearing your favorite outfits.

You may have heard all this before, especially as minimalism was such a trendy buzzword last year.

It's all true for me though; minimalism has been freeing.

The lighter feeling that came with it motivated me to change how I was living my day-to-day. And outside of the typical ways it's changed my life with stuff, it's continued to benefit me in extra-surprising ways.

Though I will also say: there's 1 way it hasn't changed my life.

On Simple And Slow, On Family And Home

On Simple And Slow, On Family And Home

"There's a stream," my mom says at my left shoulder. "The stream your uncle and I used to wade in on our way to school everyday."

"Well, it's technically righhhtttt here," my uncle interjects as he drives us down the highway. "But they covered it over a while back."

"We used to arrive at school so late," my mom remembers.

"And wet." My uncle laughs and so do the rest of my family packed in the car with us.

They've told this story a few times before but each telling seems more enjoyable than the last.

Why (And How) I'm Cleaning My Closet Again

Why (And How) I'm Cleaning My Closet Again

February almost turned me into a basket case, friends.

Well, more of one than I already am anyway.

I've been jumping all over the place (two cities in Canada, two cities in the Philippines, and two cities in the United Arab Emirates - oh, the unintentional symmetry and the weirdness of going from -20 to 30-ish °C in one swoop [-4 to 95 °F for my American friends]), my four-year-old laptop decided to die in the middle of traveling, my nine-year-old car also had to go for some repairs, and some work things exploded in my face, among other things.

*deep breath*

So!

I was lying in bed the other night, with all this running through my mind. I couldn't seem to sleep, not really worrying but my focus spread out in different directions and thoughts. Scatterbrained, I believe it's called.

So I did what any (in?)sane person would do when faced with insomnia at 1:30 am on a weeknight.

I got up and took everything out of my closet.

Uh-huh, perfectly logical thing to do.

Everything looks logical when you're desperate for sleep, right?

Insomnia aside, there was a method to my madness.

Where Does All The Decluttered Stuff Go?

Where Does All The Decluttered Stuff Go?

If you walked into my home this month, you'd stumble on boxes.

A box at the door, two boxes in front of my closet, boxes, boxes, boxes.

It almost looks like I'm moving. (I'm not, by the way, though longtime readers know I'm on the road a lot!)

I'm continuing to declutter --- deciding what stays and what goes --- but old stuff has to go somewhere, right?

And I don't want that somewhere to be places that don't need or want my stuff. That would be a waste and with the environment the way it is, I don't want to add to that problem.

So what am I doing with the things I no longer want?

Failed Your New Year's Resolutions? Do This Instead

Failed Your New Year's Resolutions? Do This Instead

You all know how much I love New Year's Resolutions, right?

(I've written about it here and here before.)

I think they're an awesome way to take advantage of that "New year, new possibilities" feeling to make changes.

But that feeling goes away, our resolutions don't always work, and that can get frustrating.

If you've already failed some of your resolutions, let me share how I accidentally fell into a simpler way of ringing in the New Year.

Even though the New Year feels a while back, this approach might still help you too.

End Your Year Intentionally (+ A Free Worksheet)

End Your Year Intentionally (+ A Free Worksheet)

When a new year starts, we’re excited to start fresh. We make plans and say “This is the year I’ll [insert resolution here]!” with conviction.

But as the year progresses, things change. Something urgent comes up. We get busy. Or we change, and the plans we make change with us. We sometimes end up shelving this year’s resolutions and look forward.

“Next year will be so much better,” we think to ourselves.

I’ve experienced this too. For years, I put off making things happen because it never seemed to be the right time for them.

Then I did something different. I shifted my focus to reviewing the year that was ending before I looked at the year ahead.

Read the rest at my guest post End Your Year Intentionally With These 10 Questions at No Sidebar. And scroll down to find a free worksheet I made you to go with this post!

Make Every Moment Count In December With 4 Mantras

Make Every Moment Count In December With 4 Mantras

Making moments count in December can be hard, yes?

You know you want to savor this special time with people you care about. You might also have traditions and beliefs you celebrate, like participating in Christmas church activities or charity volunteering.

But the real December is often a whirlwind of gift-shopping-secret-santas-Christmas-baking-crazy-traffic-parties-potlucks-more-parties-and-family-visits. The weeks go by so quick; sometimes, you look back and what you remember clearly is being stressed and exhausted.

I've been guilty of this too. Two years ago, I fell asleep at a family do after a very-last-minute Christmas shopping marathon. I only remember snatches of that get-together now, and it's all a blur.

BUT! I've learned to do better since then, and I want to share exactly how with you, friends.

Here are four mantras that help me make moments meaningful during the holidays.